"Change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another man to change him, but it does take place if one takes the time and effort to be what he is - to be fully invested in his current position" (Arnold Beisser)
The quality of the therapeutic relationship is very important- research shows that what is most effective is to have a good feeling-connection with your therapist. This quality is important as we are often wounded in relationship, and therefore, i believe, through therapy an opportunity exists to help people and realise previously hidden potential, enabling us to truly become ourselves.
It gives us the opportunity to take a closer look at ourselves and ask questions such as "what makes me who i am?" and "why do i feel the way i do?" , questions that might feel daunting to ask when alone. It's aims are to understand and reach underlying causes of distress and disconnection, providing a safe environment where exploration and interaction with the therapist can lead to a new awareness.
The overall aim is to understand the unconscious origin of our difficulties - and how these difficulties repeat themselves in our relationships and in the events of our life in the 'here and now'.
Some people come into therapy without bringing any specific issue. Sometimes its because they want to understand themselves more deeply. However, there are many reasons why you might consider therapy and some are:
Feeling misunderstood, confused, depression, anxiety, loss and bereavement, anger, family and relationships, recovery from addictions, suicidal feelings, isolation and loneliness, compulsive behaviour or obsessive thoughts, suffering from a particular trauma; emotional, physical, sexual or it could be the world seems a frightening and dangerous place.